Some people don't know how to talk

They treat discussions like a competition, instead of a mutual clarification
If you ask the definition of something they go "hah! you don't know this? then you're a noob and I'm obviously more knowledgeable than you, and thus I have won! now shoo", when maybe you just want to know what is their definition, to compare with yours and clarify what might be your and his misunderstanding

People suck at discussions and don't seem to want anything other than to have the last word and advance their points/agenda -- to win, if you will.

I notice that I tend to be very ^meta about discussions and it seems like people don't 'follow' me when I try to engage in a healthy ^metadiscussion about their discussion behavior.
Is this the result of me being a programmer?

Can I sage here? I don't feel like bumping for this reply.

PS: discussions are inherently emotional, please consider this.

>>2
There's a checkbox that says "Don't bump"... how did you miss that?

>>3
I don't even know. I'm in bed and I rewrote my post as to be of a quality I am satisfied with for this board.

>>2

PS: discussions are inherently emotional,

I don't think you understand the words you are using or the unproven presupposition you just presented here.

>>5
It's pretty obvious. Have you had discussions with most people?

I can manage to get anyone to accept pretty much anything I say by just saying it the right way. Few people actually listen to what you say, most pay attention to the way it is said and whether they like how you present it.

>>6
Nobody cares about your daily failures in trying to interact with the local college jocks and whores, brah.

>>5
What >>6-san said.

I'd like to add I^[1] am referring to discussions outside of technical or^[2] scientific circles.

But of course, you already knew this, right? RIGHT?!

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_{[1] >>2-san
[2] Logical OR}

>>8
Please don't refer to yourself as -san, that's rude.

Check em

>>10
nice dubs

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