Question...

Ok. My trouble is something that I witness often at a certain online trans community that I am a part of. It's a place where people can ask transgender people questions. The main people who come there are questioners. Here's the thing, a lot of them are MTF who are having problems separating their kinky-fetishy lifestyle with their feelings of being trans. Most of them even claim that they know longer feel like they might be female after they've finished pleasuring themselves to their kink. Now, this does not invalidate them or anything, but the responses they get seem to steer the person in the direction that they are trans. You get people telling them that they experienced the same thing and telling them that what they're feeling is normal for trans people. Once again, it's true in some cases, but these people are questioning their gender. They're not sure if they're trans or not. My problem is that without giving them neutral responses, someone who is just a fetishist, might get the idea that they're trans because of their fetish. These people will probably try transitioning thinking that all there is to being a girl is being sexually submissive. If someone asks if trans people transition because of sexual reasons, they're usually flamed for it and told that is not the case. But if that is the case, can we really get upset if someone assumes so? And shouldn't we say that some do transition for that reason, rather than getting upset and saying that's definitely not the reason?