Girls of /lounge/, why do you LOVE losers and scumbags?

It's no secret a lot of young women absolutely LOVE losers, guys who are abusive and have nothing going for them. So, girls of /lounge/... what exaclty is it?

Women like to be dominated because it makes them comfortable. The reason for your phenomenon is that undesirable men make them feel even more dominated. The idea is that they would never choose him, so the reason that they are together is because he is in control. Women get turned on by bondage and dirty men remind them of that bondage. It doesn't feel as real when it's easy to negotiate with their partner. Of course, society and sexuality are distinct. Cultural men and women will not let their sexuality be exposed in public. That's for the bedroom, where it can be quite advantageous to remember this dichotomy. Of course, some people let this get too far and they end up being abused and taken advantage of. It's because they can't control their sexuality. And you don't want to be around both men and women that don't recognize this.

This is distinct from men who prefer having freedom and being in charge. They like to protect women. Some men, however, tend to have a hard time when they feel like they can't protect their woman or when they make her angry. This is especially true of sensitive men. When they see that their woman is displeased with them, they feel like they are not making her comfortable. It harms their self esteem because they feel like it is a personal failure. When this happens, they either overcompensate or try different methods. If this doesn't work, they either find another woman or lose their faith in them and begin to prefer being alone.

It is important for men and women to respect each others differences. Unfortunately, many people never get the opportunity to socialize with the opposite gender. Interacting with the opposite gender in a mutual and earnest way is a very important part of social development. This is especially true for children, as puberty complicates this quite a bit. The world would be much better off if the genders understood each other better. Otherwise you have men who think of women as sex objects and women who think of men as alimony dispensaries. Political extremists make this even harder.