>>21This doesn't have anything to do with *phobia (I'm Hispanic myself, I get all the *phobias I never asked for).
Just because you understand one kind of oppression does not mean you understand them all. I've seen very racist homosexuals as well as very homophobic black guys. If you look hard enough you might even find homophobic transgenders.
The issue here is that people seem to take their sexuality as their identity. This pisses me off, even if you're a cisgender straight woman.
I agree with you, identity so-called theory is fucking bullshit. Putting labels on people and treating the labels as being the important part sounds overly familiar, and not in a good way. Being proud of your sexuality makes as little sense as being proud of your nationality or your ethnicity; you didn't work towards any of those things, you are not responsible for the great things the people of your nationality/ethnicity did. Pride should be reserved for when someone [i]does[/i] something worthwhile. But I digress.
No, by modern standards, he should go to LGBT parades and say "Hi, my name is Carl and I'm bisexual" every time he meets a stranger. Because you're supposed to identify with your sexuality, the rest is useless crap that only grants you privileges. Who cares about what you have done in your life?
In a certain sense,
self-identifying self-describing is a good idea. It's a way of saying ``hello, $attribute people are all around you and they look like nice people, so why do you hate them?''. It's easier to hate when your target is far away, when you don't look them in the eye, when you know so little about them that almost all is left to your imagination.
You will only be a successful and sinless person if you make a Tumblr about your sexuality. Did he tell you already he was bisexual? This is really important.
I think at some point people lost the reasoning behind self-description and just started doing it so they can go ``hey I'm in $group, isn't that cool? my group membership plays a big part in my identity!'' which is, ironically, antithetic to the previous meaning since it encourages dehumanization by strongly emphasizing groups over people.
These modern standards are the same reasons modern men/women are so fucking annoying, they care about getting as many partners as they can, without ever trying to learn something new or doing something the world really needs.
I believe this phenomenon is simply the pendulum that is still swinging past equilibrium. Feminism (not the tumblr kind) isn't about telling people what to do or how to live their lives or who to sleep with or how frequently. There is even a subgroup within feminism called ``sex-negative feminism'' (which is actually a
terrible name and has nothing to do with ``sex-negativity''; but since ``feminism'' itself is a bad name for what it represents I guess it's just continuing the trend) which analyzes how so many ``modern'' people (including a lot of self-identified feminists) tend to view sexuality as a [b]necessary[/b] (in the mathematical sense) part of a healthy and happy life, to the point that asexuals are seen as being defective and either not healthy or not happy.
That being said, I'm very sexual and very frustrated, and I can tell you that the resulting depression prevents me from working at good efficiency. For some people sexuality can be a positive factor in work efficiency (despite seemingly wasting time).So please go back to your favorite imagereddit and complain about the awful bigotry that rules our world.
No thx.